Tis The Season

While we are enjoying our family festivities this holiday season; let us not forget to teach our families what this time of year is really and truly all about. It's about our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ hints why it is called Christmas. Open your bibles and read them to your families whether they want to hear it or not! It doesn't take much to read a scripture or two. We do a poor job these days teaching our families about God because so many people have shied away from belief. I downloaded the Bible app to my phone last year and it has been GREAT. I will admit when it came to the bible I never knew exactly where to go to find certain things unless I had a learning bible; so I was a little discouraged but then I discovered the Bible app once I got a newer phone. I think this app is great because it suggest plans to read and for this holiday season I am reading "Joy To The World: 24 days of Christmas" to my family. We started it on December 1st and will go until Christmas Day. My children are learning so much and they now understand more that Christmas is not all about getting expensive material things and they understand the miracle of baby Jesus and Gods blessings. So give your family gifts this holiday season but also give them the true understanding of Christmas; this will definitely save your pockets and bring your families closer together. See it's the free GIFT that keeps on giving! Enjoy your Holiday Season....

New Holiday Recipe

Quick and Easy Homemade "Corn Bread" Recipe for the Holidays

½ cup Indian Head Yellow Corn Meal

1 cup all-purpose flour

¼ cup + 3 tablespoon sugar

1 teaspoon salt

2 ½ teaspoons baking powder

¼ cup +2 tablespoons oil

                                                ½ cup milk                                            

                                          
                                                 2 eggs

Pre heat oven to 375 and combine ingredients in mixing bowl.
Pour in lightly greased baking pan and bake for 25-27 minutes depending on how golden you like your cornbread.

Once done baking let cool for 10-15 minutes then serve to your guest. Add a side of butter on the table so guest have the option to add a little on top!

Happy Holidays from our family to yours! I hope you and your guest enjoy this amazing sweet cornbread recipe for the holiday season. 

A Mother's Strength

From the time we hear those words "Your Pregnant" we form an instant bond with our children even before we know their names or how they look. Then we have the pleasures of hearing that rapid tiny heart beat that lets us know this life that we created is for real. We bond with our tiny creations through food and talking to our bellies until our little ones arrive. The easy part is loving them because that love is instant and unconditional from the beginning. The hard part is watching them suffer knowing it is out of your control and in the hands of another person. All you can do is hope and pray that they will care for your child as you would.

We are tested time after time as mothers and I believe there is a strength that a mother has that is rare. To endure so much yet be able to go on through life with your head held high knowing that you are truly suffering inside takes a lot of strength. I know mothers that have buried their child yet they still must smile and go on day by day, I know mothers that have lost their child before they were able to bring them into this world yet they still must smile and go on day by day, I know mothers that have lost their child to drug addiction or alcoholism yet they still must smile and go on day by day, I know mothers that have lost their child to a life of crime so they are sitting in jail yet those mothers still must go on day by day with a smile. I know mothers that know their child is in an unhealthy relationship and as scared as she is for her child she must still smile and go on.

No mothers lost is greater than the next, no mothers pain when watching her child suffer is greater than the next yet we all must put on our capes and be the strong individuals God created us to be.

As a mother it hurts to watch my son suffer; from the time he was born it has been one thing after the next. First he almost died during delivery doctors cut him out so fast they actually cut his face, if they didn't do it fast we both would have died; when he was 5 years old he formed a lump on his stomach they ruled out hernia and after several test doctors never figured out what caused it, I was so stressed I started grinding my teeth in my sleep and in returned formed TMJ (locked jaw) I thought I was handling the stress well because I continued to work, go to school and just live life daily all while secretly suffering inside; I got tired of paying medical bills without having answers so I took him home and prayed, prayed, prayed and prayed some more and that lump went away after a few days; the following year he was diagnosed ADD, a year after that he was diagnosed with protrusion of the eye and this year he was diagnosed with a learning disability so it has become mentally exhausting and then to have to handle all this alone is truly a test of my Faith and Strength. I put on a strong face and front because I have to be strong for him and my family but when I'm all alone I cry and pray for understanding! At times I want to yell "why my baby boy" but I know that is not something a person with Faith would do; so I just wait because I know God knows what he is doing and I can't live my life based off fearing the unknown so I smile and go on day by day.

 I know there is another mother out there somewhere suffering as I am, and I know she may be feeling like giving up just as I have felt many times; but I am here to tell you "A Mother's Strength is a Gift from God". You might not understand why you and your child have to endure this pain and suffering , you might be feeling like it's just not fair but when you are have those feelings just remember "each day that you go on with a smile on your face you are inspiring another mother to do the same". As mothers we have an unbelievable strength and it's something that can't really be described in words only through actions and it is important for us to continue to share our testimonies with other mothers so that they can embrace their "Superpowers" aka "Mommy Strength" because without a Mother's Strength this world world be at a loss. So I embrace my "Mommy Strength" and will continue to fight for answers, support my children and do it all with a smile day by day.   

Holiday Season Family Time

I miss the times when families actually got together for the holidays! Everything was closed so you really got good quality family time on Thanksgiving and Christmas. I remember us opening our gifts Christmas morning then waiting for our cousins to come over so we could play with all our stuff together. We are in the time of MONEY!!! Where MONEY is the first priority and not family. I hear people say all the time "I can't go see my family for the holidays because it's too expensive or because they have to work the next day". Businesses are so afraid of taking a hit that they completely disregard family values. People want to know why things are so different these day it's because our UNITY as families and as a country is gone! I try to install as many good family values into my children so that they understand that family is first because at the end of the day if you loose your job, or your health start fading it's your family that you will lean on for support not your job because they will replace you and think no more about it because in their eyes there company comes first not you and your family. So please keep that in mind this holiday season and enjoy a little family time because it sure doesn't come around often. May you all have a safe and blessed holiday season! More Holiday recipes coming soon!!!!!! 

Holiday Feast

Happy Holidays from "Can a Girl Get a Break"

Its that time of the year and it's your turn to host and with the holidays right around the corner everyone is trying to figure out what to feed their families this holiday season. You can always stick to your traditional turkey, cranberry sauce and stuffing mix or you can spice it up a bit and add a few nontraditional dishes to the mix. Adding a few nontraditional items to the menu will ensure you and your family wont get tired of having the same food every year; so instead of having stuffing/dressing replace it with shrimp scampi or asparagus casserole, instead of cranberry sauce do pickled beets or deviled eggs. If you don't want turkey or ham fry some chicken or smother some pork chops in onions,mushrooms and gravy. If you really want to mix it up you can do lobster or sushi instead of turkey. However if you decide to do turkey please don't hesitate to spice that turkey up! I love to serve up my famous "Teriayki Turkey" no more dry tasteless turkeys in my house for the holidays. I have even tried Hawaiian marinade on my turkey one year and it was AMAZING! Its fun making things from scratch I love to cook and have the house smelling like delicious spices. One of my favorite side dishes is stuffed mushrooms; so if you love stuffed mushrooms and are looking for a good replacement dish from your typical traditional Thanksgiving sides TRY my simple recipe below! 

2-3 packs of portabella mushrooms (can use jumbo if you want)

2-3 packs of fresh spinach (keep in mind spinach tends to wither down once cooked)

1 can of seasoned bread crumbs (I like Italian seasoned)

1-2 bags of shredded mozzarella cheese (depending on how cheesy you want it)

1 bottle of white cooking wine

1/4 tsp. of salt (or just salt to taste)

Prep work: Wash mushrooms then take stem out, lightly butter baking tray (I use cookie sheet) then place mushrooms on sheet with a little space in between (this makes it easier when it comes to removing them from sheet when stuffed; in other words less mess). Also thoroughly wash your spinach.

Pre-heat oven to 325 for 5 minutes then place mushrooms in oven for 10-15 minutes before stuffing them (this allows the juices to settle) drain juice from all mushrooms before adding stuffing mix (If you don't do this step first your mushrooms will be extra soggy because the juice from mushrooms mixed with the spinach stuffing mix will create a sloppy mess...trust me I learned the hard way lol.). While mushrooms are pre baking prepare your spinach stuffing mix. 

This step should be done while mushrooms are releasing its juices.
Spinach Mix :  In medium sized pot add 1/4 cup of water,  1 bag of spinach, 1/4 cup of milk. Let spinach wither down then add more spinach to pot (recipe is per bag so if using 2 bags of spinach double ingredients or add until you get desired texture, I like mine thick and creamy). Add 1 cup of mozzarella cheese and 1/4 cup of seasoned bread crumbs. Stir until thick creamy texture or desired texture if its too thick for you just slowly pour in more milk until it loosens up. Once everything is blended together turn stove off and let sit.

Once juice are drained from mushrooms place them back on cookie sheet or baking pan and fill them with spinach stuffing mix. When stuffing process is all done dash each mushroom with white cooking wine then lightly sprinkle more breadcrumbs on top and place them in oven for 15-20 mins with oven on 350 degrees.Take stuffed mushrooms from oven and let cool for 10 minutes then let your guess enjoy! (Mushrooms can still be hot on the inside so eat with caution).

Hope you and your loved ones enjoy this recipe! Please come back and let me know how it turned out!!! Also come by and look for more Holiday Recipes from yours truly....

Love Always,
SunShyne B.

 

It's OK to let it go!

On a daily basis I talk to people that are stressed out and frustrated over other people's issues. I am guilty of doing this myself. The way I am learning to see it is; if we care enough about our loved ones to carry their stress why shouldn't they care enough to act right! Well that is because we can not control other people and their actions; as people we only know to do the thing that are installed in us over the years; so we tend gravitate towards habits we pick up along the way. Life is a learning experience for us all and everyone learns in a different way and at a different pace; you can not force someone to live the way you want them too. It is not fair to get upset at someone because you chose to make their burden your own. Some times we think we are helping people by telling them how they should live their lives, but in all reality we are pushing them further away. Nobody wants to be told how they should live their life; especially when they are probably just getting by on THEIR best. Life is already a heavy load and when you start piling up other people's burdens on your shoulders you begin to weaken and before you know it; your world comes tumbling down! I have carried the stress of people before and I ended up missing out on a lot; I couldn't even recognize my own happiness. There is nothing wrong with helping people or being a shoulder to cry on but once that conversation is over, you need to drop down and give it to God; that way it is not your worry. We all have issues that we deal with and will need a vent person but what good are they to us if they are so stressed and weak from all the burdens they carry around. Learning how to let go of the burden doesn't mean you don't love them; it just means that you are growing and allowing yourself to enjoy life. So take a deep breath and let it go!

Can a Girl Get a Break!!!!: WAIT WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY

Can a Girl Get a Break!!!!: WAIT WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY: Living in a state that is filled with people that have migrated from different areas of the world a.k.a. "The Transplants" have t...

WAIT WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY

Living in a state that is filled with people that have migrated from different areas of the world a.k.a. "The Transplants" have taught me a lot; but the things that stick out to me the most are Accents, Food, Holidays and Driving! Yes I said it....lol. 

1. Every place has it's own lingo and so does every area of the region. I get it all the time people say "hey where are you from?" When I reply Boston. They usually say "you don't sound like your from Boston" so in return I say "what does a person from Boston sound like" Then I get the whole "PAK YA KHA" thing.... translation:" Park your car" and it drives me crazy because not everyone from Boston has the same accent and most people that claim they are from Boston really live in the suburbs not in the inner city. So I believe when it comes to an individuals accent it depends on where they were raised and who raised them. 

2. Food is completely different depending on what you are use too, sometimes its even hard to find certain spices and ingredients that I am use to cooking with because the demographics here isn't large. White, Black and Mexican dominate my area so the spices I would normally use to make a West Indian dish are not available.

3. People celebrate holidays differently! In some parts of the world the make a big fuss over the holidays but in some cases people don't acknowledge holidays at all.

4. People's driving skills are different and I am noticing NO MIDDLE FINGERS or HONKING so that will keep you out of trouble.

 

Don't be afraid to take a chance and relocate just know that these 4 things are going to vary depending on where you go but they will always determine how well you adapt to your new surroundings!

Can a Girl Get a Girl 2

The family that you have grown to love has RETURNED! The journey continues as this family tries to pick up the pieces after a few events that knocked them off their feet. This book series is amazing because it is packed with real life situations and emotions that we all can relate too. You can expect to fall in love with these characters because they will remind you of yourself at some point in your life. If you haven't started on this journey you are missing out! So order your copy of the book that started it all "Can a Girl Get a Break" and you can also pre-order your copy of "Can a Girl Get a Break 2" set to be release October 24, 2014 by visiting www.canagirlgetabreak.com

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   October 24, 2014 Quiana and her family are back in the new book "Can a Girl Get a Break 2".
This family was first introduced 2 years ago and people immediately fell in love. Their journey continues as they try to deal with Life's Lessons and still keep a tight family bond. Ms. Sasha a single mother of 5 children living in the tough neighborhoods of Boston, MA struggling to keep her children on the right track in the drug infested, violent and corrupt town of  Dorchester. Monique her oldest being 15 years old gave birth to a baby girl at the tender age of 14 and is struggling to find a balance between being a loving responsible mom and just being a kid herself. The story is being told through the eyes of 14 year old Quiana the second born and she brings us on this journey as she tries to understand why life is so complicated. Her confusion and eagerness to understand life is relate able to us all. This book series is packed with lots of excitement and drama! It will make you laugh, cry, surprised and think about some things. If you haven't started on this journey you are missing out! So order your copy of the book that introduced us to it all "Can a Girl Get a Break" so you can follow this family through the years trust me it will help you realize that their is someone else out there that is going through something similar to you. To order your copy of "Can a Girl Get a Break" or to pre-order "Can a Girl Get a Break 2" please visit www.canagirlgetabreak.com  

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Can a Girl Get a Break 2

HEY LOYAL READERS... ITS BEEN A WHILE BUT I HAVE BEEN WORKING HARD ON WRITING book 2 for my book series Can a Girl Get a Break! !! So excited can't wait for you guys to see what comes next for Quiana and her family!! If you haven't ordered your copy of Can a Girl Get a Break 1 please visit www.canagirlgetabreak.com so you can keep up with all the fun, drama and entertainment! !!! Can a Girl Get a Break 1 is also available in EBOOK on Amazon.com

A POEM ABOUT FAITH

FAITH
By SunShyne B.

When things seem to be falling apart right in front of my face... still I have Faith;

 

At times I feel like its all just a waste but still I have Faith,

 

I have Faith that I will get through any and everything that comes my way;

 

I want to give up I want to cry but I know that won't change a thing; my Faith is the only thing that

will allow me to press on if the lord allows me to see another day;

 

I want to scream I want to shout but if I'm a believer what's all that about?

 

At times I feel angry; at times I feel sad but still I have Faith that my life isn't all bad;

 

I don't believe my life is in vain and only through Faith can I escape this pain;

 

My heart gets heavy my body gets weak yet I still must believe;

 

One day this pain will be gone then I can look back and say "Never not ever did I give up on my FAITH".

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WISH LIST

THESE ARE MY WISHES....WHAT ARE YOURS?

I wish I could spend more time with my kids,

 I wish I can continue to have this Great relationship with GOD,

I wish that we could all see what we mean to one another,

I wish that we could love each other,

I wish our girls can come back home,

I wish all these wars would end,

 I wish that all nationalities could get along,

I wish that everyone believed in God,

I wish that everyone could have their own piece of land,

I wish that children could have happy childhoods,

I wish that everyone was healthy,

I wish that racism would go away,

I wish that there was enough food for everyone,

I wish that there was no alcoholism or drug abuse,

I wish there were no ignorant people here on earth,

I wish people cookout more,

 I wish music turns good again like in the late 80's-early 2000's ,

I wish Stephen King would make movies again; its hard to find a good scary movie,

I wish the real TWINKIE and PECAN ROLLS come back,

I wish I could travel anywhere I want,

I wish someone would pay for me to go back to school,

I wish that everyone was at peace

I wish my children grow up to be the best men they can be!

I wish I can be more involved in our community

I wish to one day see "Can a Girl Get a Break" become a movie

I wish to one day have my sisters and brothers next to me

My list could go on and on but I will stop it here some times it's good to make a wish list to see if you have a balance of healthy selfishness it's GREAT to think about others but you must think about yourself as well. So from time to time I will sit and make a list of all my wishes and see if I have a balance.....FUN ACTIVITY: Don't think about it just type or write the wishes as they come to mind then go back and read it and see if you have a healthy balance! Just a fun activity that I wanted to share with you guys...hope it can help you in the way that it has helped me!

I AM ME AND IM OK WITH IT....

For years I tried to do things because people made fun of who I was...told me I was too good, too quiet, not social and I have also been told I act like a white girl...well I say to you that sit back and judge me; THANK YOU for seeing all the those awesome things in me that I didn't see at the time...me being a good person is what God wanted from me this whole time, me being quiet gave me plenty of time to sit back and observe the world so that I can make the right decisions for MY LIFE..me not being a social butterfly has allowed me to avoid FAKE ASS DRAMA FILLED PEOPLE AND KEPT ME OUT OF JAIL and lastly me acting like a "white girl" as some call it was me opening my mind to endless possibilities; I didn't limit myself to what a African American girl/woman should be like, I didn't allow myself to become another statistic or stereotype I made my own destiny. ..so while it hurt my feeling before and made me want to change to fit in; I am actually glad I have all those qualities because I know I will always be OK no matter what as long as I keep putting me & my family first and block out all negativity from my life; I don't think I am better than the next person but I do believe me and my little family deserve to live the best life we possibly can...#NO #REGRETS because I can look back at my life and say I have achieved all my goals through the grace of GOD and I am who he made me to be!!!!!

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY

As mothers we have an amazing strength. We are the super heros, we are the nurses, doctors, lawyers, teachers, councilors, therapist, friends, enemies, accountants and even most of the time preachers! We fight a tought battle everyday with blood, sweat, tears and unconditional love; its amazing how we are looked down on as women yet we hold all everything together! Our strength and courage is built from the best creator ever so never forget that ladies...even when we are wore down God still gives us the strength to press on! Mother's all around the world sacrifice on a daily basis and its nice for people to take time to recognize what we do and how hard it really is to be somebody's mama.....lol.

MOTIVATION

What seems like a "Dream" can one day become a reality all you have to do is have ambition and determination no matter what the next person says. People will always try to find a way to be little you; just stay focused on your goals and not the negativity! I believe whole heartedly that what is meant to be will be no matter what obstacles come your way. Stay strong and you will start to see the changes just continue to put your all into your future; because if you don't nobody else will!!!! #ambition #motivation #determination #success

-SunShyne B

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After "The Storm"

"The Storm" can be anything in your life that is causing you pain. "The Storm" can show up at any time; especially when you think you got everything going right for yourself. "The Storm" can leave a lot of damage behind that can take an extremely long time to repair. There is no possible way to prepare for "The Storm" because it is so unpredictable. "The Storm" has hit my house before! I never saw it coming; one minute I was happy next minute I was sad. "The Storm" blew through so fast knocking everything out of place; shifting things around allowing me to see things from a different prospective. "The Storm" almost tore my whole house down; but thank goodness for my strong foundation which allowed me to ride out "The Storm". I know that "The Storm" will return someday so every day I kneel and I pray. "Lord you have been so good to me and I know there are times when I seem down on my Faith but somehow you are always there for me. Lord I surrender myself to you each and every day. Each morning you allow me to wake up marks another day that I can use to learn how to get closer to you. I try to do things all on my own which makes life seem too hard to go on; but when I open up to you Lord things seem to get much better. I know that "The Storm" will return again one day but with you by my side I know I will win. Lord I ask that you continue to guide me so I can be at my best. I want to feel happy and I want to feel free; thank you, thank you Lord for believing in me. -Amen". After you kneel down and pray please wipe those tears away, hold your head up high because you know the greatest is by your side. I wanted to share this message because I know that at times life seems so overwhelming and tough but if we hang in there and to ride out "The Storm" soon a beautiful day will come. I never thought I would see the day when I would feel pure happiness in my soul because I almost gave up, I almost brought it all too an end because I felt low. It was hard for me because I couldn't understand how a person so smart, so funny , so gifted and so beautiful can feel so helpless, so dumb, so sad, so ugly and so useless. I had to remind myself of all the good things in my life and I had to build a "DREAM" to escape the harsh ways of reality. I dreamed that one day I would be able to help others, I dreamed one day I will be happy, I dreamed one day that I will have a career, I dreamed one day to have a family and I dream one day that I will be the best me I can be. Please don't let "The Storm" destroy your home build a solid foundation so that you can beat "The Storm" so you can enjoy the sunny days to come! -SunShyne B
 

Be your own friend

So often we look to find comfort in others. Whether it be from their words, touch or maybe just their presence we tend to depend on other people to make us feel better; when the truth of the matter is, if you are not a good friend to yourself then you won't allow anyone else to be a good friend to you. Have you ever  wondered why talking to a friend about your problems didn't help you feel better? You never want to tell your friend that they really didn't help you but deep inside you know its true. I feel that is because sometimes we need to help ourselves! We need to be our own best friend...spend time with yourself; because if you don't like hanging with you most likely your friends won't like hanging with you. Its ok to go see a movie by yourself, go eat breakfast lunch or dinner by yourself, go shopping by yourself its OK to get to know yourself! We have to learn to find comfort in ourselves through spirituality. One day I was all caught up in my feelings and I started to pick up the phone and call a friend to vent but then I stopped myself and decided to pray about my issues and you know what I felt better after. I felt proud because I found strength through prayer and over came my feeling of being sad and emotional by trusting myself. We are a lot stronger than we give ourselves credit for, if we lean on others too often; we loose our inner strength. Don't allow yourself to become weak by loosing your inner strength..ALWAYS remember that you are stronger than you think!

I REBUKE YOU SATAN

It all started last Sunday when I could feel this anger and irritation building up inside of me. I knew I had been working too much and was physically and mentally drained so I chopped it up to maybe I am tired or maybe its because my period is set to come any day now, but then as I started watching the news and reading different social media post it because very clear that Satan was at work. I know there are a lot of people out there that don't believe in God but I choose too. I know what God is capable of because I have seen what he has done in my life so I know he is POWERFUL!  No matter if you believe or not it is not hard to see that there is definitely a battle going on between Good and Evil and its not anything new; this battle has been going on for years but because of the media we see and hear about it more. I feel that as people no matter what color, ethnic background,  financial background or spiritual background at some point enough is enough. We all have to be tired of seeing our people struggle, die or just out there acting a damn fool. I don't know abouy you all but I am tired of it so I REBUKE SATAN in the name of JESUS Amen!

Don't Be Afraid To Ask For Understanding

I ask for understanding.  Because through understanding I can be a better wife, mother, sister, aunty,  cousin and friend. I ask for understanding because it makes me a better person overall. I ask for understanding because my views on life seem a little unsure and confused at times. I ask for understanding so I won't be so quick to pass judgment on a situation I don't agree with or understand.  I ask for understanding when I read the word because I want to know it in my soul, I ask for understanding when trying to figure out my life because at times I feel so alone. I ask for understanding when someone I love crosses over to the other side and it leaves me feeling hopeless. I ask for understanding when every thing seems to go wrong when I know I am trying my best. I ask for Understanding when my heart seems to grow cold to this unpredictably cruel world. My point is that when you don't know or understand something it is ok to ask for understanding. Understanding is one of the greatest attributes a person can have, because then and only then will the world not seem so small.

FAITH

I can't stress enough why it is important to grow in your Faith. Sometimes we set goals for ourselves and want to do things but dont know where to start. You may want to start your own business but have bad credit and no money. You may want to go back to school to further your education but its been so long you feel hopeless. Or maybe just maybe you want to start your own Brand but think there is absolutely no way this can happen. Well I am here to tell you that with FAITH anything is possible! 2 years ago I started "Can a Girl Get a Break" I was going through tough times and prayed for God to guide me and my family in the direction he wanted us to go and before I knew it "CGGB" was put in my heart. It started off as a book series then the ideas continued to formulate in my head; one after another now we have an online store where we sell "CGGB" products. I know that none of this would be possible without my Faith because when I didn't have Faith my life was a mess. I wasn't living my life to its full potential and I paid for it; all in all everything we go through is a blessing because we learn from our experiences whether good or bad. So I hope you continue to have Faith in yourself and what you believe in; now go out there and do successful things in life! I tell you; when you achieve your goals it's an amazing feeling that nobody can take from you. So go be your best!

-SunShyne B

Nightly Thought

Sitting here thinking about how bad and messed up we treat one another; and you know what it is RIDICULOUS and STUPID. The senseless killing, bullying, torturing,  cheating, lying, deceiving and just flat out wrong doings are what is ruining our COUNTRY. We are all considered to be brothers and sisters yet we treat each other horribly over little petty things. I for one am tired of all the negativity. The senseless murders, suicides, rapes, and child abandonment, damn it should be enough for people to want to stand up and act better; but there seems to be no regaurd for our lives any more. We all need the same things to survive yet somehow we think we are better than one another; when the truth of the matter is we are all the same. We all need our hearts to live and love; so embrace your heart and open your heart to your brothers and sisters. If they break your heart; just know that God is the glue that can put it all back together!

  -SunShyne B
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Morning Thought

Some times we are overly consumed with negativity.  We have to remember that in order to have peace in our lives we must surround ourselves with peaceful things include what we watch on TV or listen to on the radio. Our lives may not have too much drama but if you watch enough of it on TV it can affect your thinking. I remember being a stay at home mom when my kids were younger and my husband would be at work and I would be watching day time talk shows and soap operas and next thing you know I was accusing him of cheating and all kind of craziness and it caused serious problems...lol. So I decided to change what I watched during the day and it got better. So remember our minds are sponges and also the devil's playground so please be aware of what you allow to get in your head because it reflects in your behavior.

-SunShyne B
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20 seconds of courage

Good Morning "Loyal Readers" I have always been told that to be successful all it takes is "20 seconds of courage"; and you know what I find that to be extremely true! The other day I went Downtown/Uptown Charlotte because it was the first day of the CIAA tournament; I felt it would be a great time to get my name out in the streets, so I passed out my books, tshirts and business cards. At first I almost let my nerves get the best of me and went back home but I had to tell myself repeatedly that "all it takes is 20 seconds". Finally I found a parking spot, took a deep breath, said a prayer "Lord use me in the way you want; I am yours to use" then I grabbed my stuff and headed for the streets. I headed to the Time Warner Arena with my 9 year old son by my side and set up. When I looked at my son I felt better. I knew I had to put on my "big girl panties" and show him how to get pass your fears and go after what you want in life. I looked around and as I saw people approaching me, my thoughts raced in my head on how I would approach them. I have to say the first one came off a bit shaky but it was still successful. ..lol. I was a bit disappointed with myself so I went in on myself like "girl you know you got something great that people need to see and hear because it will help people feel good; you got this now stop being a succka and get it together". And lets just say everything was Awesome from there; I was talking to people, laughing, taking pictures, and just having a good time. I just needed to remind myself why I was doing it, also to let loose and have fun. I love writing and being creative and I will not let fear stand in my way. All it takes is 20 seconds of courage and your DREAMS can come true! That was just a stepping stone for me. Each time I put myself out there it will build my courage and make me stronger. Rejection is never easy but remember you can learn from it and it is vital for your growth. I am truly glad and proud of myself for stepping out of my shell.

-SunShyne B

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Tyler's Story

Hello "Loyal Readers",

Not to long ago I had the honor of meeting a young man that was paralyzed from the waist down due to a sports injury. I had the honor of cutting Tyler's hair when he came into the salon in which I work. Tyler's mom started telling me about how they were on their way to breakfast at Tyler's favorite restaurant which he hadn't been to since his injury; when they arrived at the location they realized that there was no wheelchair ramp so his mom went to speak to the owner and all that was said was that by law they didn't have to have a wheelchair ramp if they were built before a certain year. I was completely SHOCKED and DISGUSTED at the same time. First thing first; it is his favorite restaurant and they wouldn't even accommodate him. Secondly that was a lame excuse not to have a wheelchair ramp available. Just because it isn't against the law it still doesn't make it right! What about your loyal dedicated customers. All in all Tyler and his mother had to find somewhere else to have their breakfast. Because it was brought to my attention I wanted to spread Tyler' Story around to bring awareness to this situation because nobody should be turned around because they are wheelchair bound.