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Wednesday, March 11, 2015

Are you HONEST with your children?

Good Morning,

The other day my 10 year old son asked me what a yeast infection was, so I explained it to him and let's just say he regreted Gotta LOVE those Monistat 7 commercials at 6am.

I believe in keeping it honest with my children because I don't want them growing up with a false sense of what the world is really like.

Some people disagree with my parenting saying that I am taking the innocence away from them but I disagree. I don't want my children thinking babies come from a STORK I need them to understand that babies come from 2 people having sex. 

However I do believe in letting them enjoy their childhood so I did tell them about the Easter Bunny, Santa Clause & the Tooth Fairy but once they started getting suspicious and asking questions I simply explained that it is a tradition that families pass on generation to generation to make their childhood fun! I also explained to them the real reason Christmas is celebrated and that it isn't just about getting gifts and you know what they seemed to understand that more than a Jolly fat guy breaking into our house at night to leave gifts.

I feel that at times we underestimate our children, we forget they are just little versions of us! I believe being honest with them will not set them up for failure or lead them to look at us as liars as they start learning life lessons; instead they can say well mom & dad did say that.

There are times when they question what we are telling them but in that case I just tell them TIME will show you! 

I can't tell anyone how to parent their child because each situation is different but I can speak from expirence when I say it's not fun growing up and realizing a lot of stuff you were told was just made up because adults found it too hard to explain the truth. 

Some people fear telling their children about how they were as kids or teens in some false hope that they will turn out better; well sorry to burst your bubble but the truth of the matter is you share the same DNA so even if you hide it they will eventually show your traits and wonder why they act and feel the way they do. I feel it will cause more harm for a child to feel isolated and misunderstood when the whole time you could have just been honest and said you know what at that age I acted the same way; at least they will feel connected to you in some way and understand that they are not just a screw up. We all try to figure out why we are the way we are and we all feel better when we know there is someone else out there that is like us and there is no stronger similarity than with a parent & child. So please think about telling them the truth the next time they come to you because they may already know the answer yet they are testing you to see if you will be honest to them the way you PREACH for them to be honest with you.

I was once asked "But what if they throw it back in your face" well at the end of the day I don't regret anything about my life because it made me the woman I am today, so if they chose to throw things in my face im sure it will hurt but at least I know I was always HONEST with them. I would rather them throw my truth at me than to be disappointed and upset because they felt everthing I ever told them was a lie.

We all know that the truth eventually comes out it's just better if they hear it from YOU!

Always Keeping it Real- SunShyne B.