On a daily basis I talk to people that are stressed out and frustrated over other people's issues. I am guilty of doing this myself. The way I am learning to see it is; if we care enough about our loved ones to carry their stress why shouldn't they care enough to act right! Well that is because we can not control other people and their actions; as people we only know to do the thing that are installed in us over the years; so we tend gravitate towards habits we pick up along the way. Life is a learning experience for us all and everyone learns in a different way and at a different pace; you can not force someone to live the way you want them too. It is not fair to get upset at someone because you chose to make their burden your own. Some times we think we are helping people by telling them how they should live their lives, but in all reality we are pushing them further away. Nobody wants to be told how they should live their life; especially when they are probably just getting by on THEIR best. Life is already a heavy load and when you start piling up other people's burdens on your shoulders you begin to weaken and before you know it; your world comes tumbling down! I have carried the stress of people before and I ended up missing out on a lot; I couldn't even recognize my own happiness. There is nothing wrong with helping people or being a shoulder to cry on but once that conversation is over, you need to drop down and give it to God; that way it is not your worry. We all have issues that we deal with and will need a vent person but what good are they to us if they are so stressed and weak from all the burdens they carry around. Learning how to let go of the burden doesn't mean you don't love them; it just means that you are growing and allowing yourself to enjoy life. So take a deep breath and let it go!
Thursday, October 16, 2014
Can a Girl Get a Break!!!!: WAIT WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY: Living in a state that is filled with people that have migrated from different areas of the world a.k.a. "The Transplants" have t...
Living in a state that is filled with people that have migrated from different areas of the world a.k.a. "The Transplants" have taught me a lot; but the things that stick out to me the most are Accents, Food, Holidays and Driving! Yes I said it....lol.
1. Every place has it's own lingo and so does every area of the region. I get it all the time people say "hey where are you from?" When I reply Boston. They usually say "you don't sound like your from Boston" so in return I say "what does a person from Boston sound like" Then I get the whole "PAK YA KHA" thing.... translation:" Park your car" and it drives me crazy because not everyone from Boston has the same accent and most people that claim they are from Boston really live in the suburbs not in the inner city. So I believe when it comes to an individuals accent it depends on where they were raised and who raised them.
2. Food is completely different depending on what you are use too, sometimes its even hard to find certain spices and ingredients that I am use to cooking with because the demographics here isn't large. White, Black and Mexican dominate my area so the spices I would normally use to make a West Indian dish are not available.
3. People celebrate holidays differently! In some parts of the world the make a big fuss over the holidays but in some cases people don't acknowledge holidays at all.
4. People's driving skills are different and I am noticing NO MIDDLE FINGERS or HONKING so that will keep you out of trouble.
Don't be afraid to take a chance and relocate just know that these 4 things are going to vary depending on where you go but they will always determine how well you adapt to your new surroundings!
Monday, October 13, 2014
Sunday, October 12, 2014
October 24, 2014 Quiana and her family are back in the new book "Can a Girl Get a Break 2".
This family was first introduced 2 years ago and people immediately fell in love. Their journey continues as they try to deal with Life's Lessons and still keep a tight family bond. Ms. Sasha a single mother of 5 children living in the tough neighborhoods of Boston, MA struggling to keep her children on the right track in the drug infested, violent and corrupt town of Dorchester. Monique her oldest being 15 years old gave birth to a baby girl at the tender age of 14 and is struggling to find a balance between being a loving responsible mom and just being a kid herself. The story is being told through the eyes of 14 year old Quiana the second born and she brings us on this journey as she tries to understand why life is so complicated. Her confusion and eagerness to understand life is relate able to us all. This book series is packed with lots of excitement and drama! It will make you laugh, cry, surprised and think about some things. If you haven't started on this journey you are missing out! So order your copy of the book that introduced us to it all "Can a Girl Get a Break" so you can follow this family through the years trust me it will help you realize that their is someone else out there that is going through something similar to you. To order your copy of "Can a Girl Get a Break" or to pre-order "Can a Girl Get a Break 2" please visit www.canagirlgetabreak.com